Stuck under a moon IC/Mars IC line

I moved to Courtenay in British Columbia Canada 20 years ago, before I even knew about Astrocartography.  After receiving my A*C*G chart.  I found out I am living 5 degrees East of my Moon IC line and 3 degree East of my Mars IC line.  I also did a relocational chart for Courtenay and discovered that the Moon and Mars form a soft square to my relocated ascendant (between Aquarius & Libra), with 3 & 5 degree orbs, respectively.

During my time here, I have experienced a lot of conflict in the places I've lived.  For example, the last landlord I had -- who was a fundamentalist Christian -- thought I was a wonderful tenant until he discovered I did astrology and tarot cards and then all hell broke lose.  (I had to take him to arbitration twice.)  My current landlady has lately threatened me with eviction -- for waking her up when I used my kitchen late at night, or got up to pee -- and has "by mistake" misappropriated my mail several times. (I am looking for another place to live, but as I told her,"I'll be leaving at my convenience, not yours.")  Before my last two rentals, I had to move an average of once a year, having to deal with such problems as habitual noisy early-morning drunks and an apartment manager who partied with them; older people who felt entitled to shout at each other from their stoops early in the morning, one of them less than 4 feet from my bedroom window; people above me selling drugs at all hours to all kinds of people, including my landlord.  I also haven't had much luck with relationships -- because of infidelity, drug/alcohol abuse, and/or anger issues -- or in most of my friendships.  (I've been used, back-stabbed, and viciously gossiped about.)  And then there are the petty politics that have driven me out of most of the clubs and volunteer groups I've joined, dishonest mechanics I've had to deal with, and the persons who have vandalized my truck.  If it weren't for my successful landscaping business and my clients, who incidentally seem to love me, there wouldn't be much here for me.  Unfortunately, mostly because I've had to move so much, I don't have the finances to leave and start all over somewhere else.

Does anybody here know if Moon/Mars line influences soften over time as people become acclimatized to them, or if there is a way to moderate them.  Are there good aspects to living near such a line, that I can take advantage of?

Thanks in advance for your input.

Charlotte Elizabeth Ostrowski, my dear!

What a great story you have told! Thank you for telling it like it is.

No, Moon/Mars lines don't soften over time. They continue to be irritating.

But!!!!!

While you are there (and I do so hope you are saving up to get away) you can become the epitome of Moon and Mars.

While I am sure you have many ideas and remedies of your own, here are some from my clients over the years. I hope other readers will chime in with more!

Become a very good activist. Activists change the world. And they do this by keeping their cool at all costs. Stay angry. But act cool.

Join Amnesty International for a few bucks and join their Freedom Writers section. Every month they will send you three letters to photocopy and send to cruel dictators, dreadful presidents, whoever. (When the dictator gets 10,000 letters, they let the political prisoner go.) The worse the leader, the more polite the letter. In time you will learn the language of high diplomacy, a skill that will see you through anything that life could ever throw at you. Shazam!

Become a brilliant cook. This is the moon function at its best. (Red food and spicy food would be Moon with Mars. Spaghetti and peppers? Vegetable Biriyani? If there are poor people in your town, feed people. Mother to the world. If there are homeless, study the problems. Find housing for them.

Become an expert on cheese. (The Moon, you see.)

Work out, but gently. Yoga might be ideal.

Read books about heros. Start with Gandhi - The Story of My Experiments with Truth. Read the speeches of Dr. Martin Luther King. Next, Gloria Steinem, Cynthis Ozick, Germaine Greer.

Can you take online courses? Political science? Psychopathology? Indian cookery? Botany in space?

In other words, compete with yourself. And if your tormentors say you think you're better than they are, you'll be able to agree with them.

Try to get outa there someday. There is joy in the struggle, Comrade.

The sisterhood is powerful.

Affectionately, Debbi Kempton-Smith